Millennial Tips: How to overcome rejection
Being rejected is just never easy, no matter how many times you’ve had to deal with it or watched another person in your surrounding cope with the psychological weight it entails.
And while there’s hardly anything you can do to immunize yourself against rejection, you can always equip yourself to better deal with its impact.
Don’t know where to start? We’ve laid out a few practical hacks to help you turn things around.
1. Understand that rejection is an inherent part of existence. The problem with us is that we often view rejection as an external constraint that is hindering our advancement/separating us from our goals while it is in fact a inherent part of life that most residents of the world have experienced, are experiencing at this very minute or will be experiencing sooner or later. And while you may be getting rejected more frequently than other people around you, it could simply be because you’re trying more often/throwing yourself at more opportunities/taking more risks than these people (which is almost always better than playing it safe).
2. Detach before you evaluate. We are prone to dwell on self-blame in the immediate aftermath of rejection. But the trick here is to stop focusing on yourself and try to look at the situation from a detached perspective instead. Such redirection will eventually be hard to achieve at first but the more you start seeing rejection as less of an ‘I’ and more of an ‘it’ (story/event), you will be able to better process, evaluate and learn from it.
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3. Do not trade rejection for more rejection. It is also important to simply contain/assimilate rejection as plain rejection and not let it evolve into bitterness or close-mindedness, as this will only lead to more rejection. By being closed off/bitter, you are namely rejecting both your existing potential to overcome/succeed and the help of other people, all while clouding your perception of new opportunities that may have been lying in the horizon while you were wasting your energy on self-pity and resentment.
4. Start viewing rejection as a door to a whole new world of opportunities, because that’s what it is, at the end of the day. The world is never short of opportunities, professional or otherwise. It’s often opportunities that are short of the right people at the right time. In other words, your rejection in the context of a specific opportunity could very well be an indirect access to another opportunity that you might not have thought of/pursued had this particular rejection not taken place. It’s all about how you choose to look at things!